Writer's Block: Significant Change

2038-01-19T03:14:07Z

Have you ever tried to change yourself for someone you were in a relationship with (or wanted to be in a relationship with)? Did it work?

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Reading the other answers to this, there's mostly the obvious pair of "No and you shouldn't ever have to" and "Yes, and it was a disaster". But really, we all act differently with different people. I swear less when I'm around my mum or grandma; some people I feel I can talk to about stuff that makes me miserable and with some I put on a cheerful face; my accent even shifts North or South depending who I'm speaking to. And these are just a few of the most concrete examples off the top of my head. So really, what's the chance you could remain exactly the same when a big new influence enters your life? And shouldn't there be some things you'd be happy to change for a partner, if it meant a lot to them? Especially getting rid of bad habits. My mum told me she was terrible at arriving on time, as I still am, until she had small children that absolutely had to be picked up from nursery school on time. And now, she's....well, still not great at timekeeping, but better than most of my family.
Trying to change something that you're not ready to change, though, or trying to remodel yourself entirely to what they want - obviously not that healthy and almost certainly doomed to failure. But trying to change yourself? Yes. It's entirely reasonable to want to be the best 'you' you can be for someone special. And most of us have a bad habit or three we could stand to lose.

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Writer's Block: Significant Change